The Hangover AKA what no one tells you about success in life and business

The first 3 months of the year for me were amazing. Yes they were really busy. But often the busier you are and the more you have on your plate, the more the fire is lit under your bum to actually get stuff done. That’s how it works for me anyway.

In January I went to the Bahamas for a retreat where the topic was sales, in February I went to Social Media Marketing World in San Diego, California with a few days vacay,  and in March I went to Arizona to attend Your Million Dollar message.

Meanwhile, I was also in launch mode for the Live Video Formula, which meant creating content for webinars, presentations, a free download, and weekly videos. Not to mention creating the content for the course, delivering it to beta testers, and getting people into the course itself.

And, to top that all off; all the march madness that happens each year with many key projects ending March 31st.

Oh right, I was also deep into rehearsals for a theatre production which just wrapped up last weekend.

Then April rolled around and I was like….what now? What do I do, what do I spend my time on, what is next for me?

Honestly, I spent a few weeks feeling really lost. The webinars were done, I was waiting for the course to begin, all of that work to get the course up and running was winding down.

So I want to share with you 3 important things to keep in mind if this happens to you, and so I can look back next time and remind myself.

1. Take time to relax and re-energize

3 months of pedal to the metal can really take its toll on you. I was loving every minute of it and I don’t think I even realized how busy I was and how much I was actually taking on. My mind just kept saying more more more!

But after such a stretch, it’s important to make sure you take a bit of time to take a breath, relax, and ground yourself.

Take a nap. Sleep in. Do the things that you haven’t done in a long time because they “aren’t productive” because honestly, you aren’t going to be productive if you don’t because you’ll be out of gas.

I watched at least an entire season of the Mindy Project. And some of that was in the middle of the day when I’d usually be working. Good idea? Depends on your perspective. At this point, there wasn’t a ton that I needed to get done. The most important thing for me was to get rest so that I could strategically plan next steps. Your brain won’t be strategic if it’s too tired.

2. Focus on other areas of your life

I had some friends that I hadn’t seen in what felt like forever. And I felt like I had barely seen BFK in forever either. Even though we live together.

When you are giving it your all in one area of your life, other areas are going to suffer, that just how it is. It’s not realistic to think you can be the super entrepreneur, the best GF the friend who is there for everyone, improve your half marathon PR, and nail your role in a play all at the same time. Some might say that’s a limiting belief. I say it’s reality.

Take some time to refocus on the areas that might have been neglected. Go on a date with your partner. Go for a girl’s night or for coffee with friends. Go for a nice long run even if you feel like dying the entire time.

Refocus and make sure you are creating a well-rounded life for yourself that isn’t only fulfilled when it’s full of work activities.

3. Take a break from technology

I don’t really love saying this. And I really don’t love doing this.

But it’s easy to become addicted and obsessive. When I was running webinars, I couldn’t help but check on the registration numbers every few hours. And I couldn’t help checking my list size, my ad analytics, my likes and comments on my posts, you name it. It got very obsessive.

And that’s not even that worst part. When the webinars had all been done, and there wasn’t really any equivalent to check on, I still kept grabbing my phone to look at for some instant gratification. But like I said, there wasn’t much to even be looking at other than social media likes. And we really don’t want to go down that rabbit hole.

So take a break.

And if that’s really hard for you, like it is for me, start small.

I logged out of Facebook and Instagram (on a Saturday) and told myself that I couldn’t go back in for 12 hours. I wouldn’t be missing any work stuff, Saturday. And when I'd grab my phone, the prompt for me to log in would remind me that I made this pact with myself. Because often I just go in without realizing its just a habit.

Second. Don’t be afraid to leave your phone at home if you are going out for dinner or something quick where you in no way will need your phone. and don’t be afraid to let your phone die and leave it off for a couple of hours. The battery on my phone has been super wonky and needs to be replaced. That gave me the perfect excuse to just leave it off for a bit.

You probably won’t miss anything. I didn’t. And it helped me be more mindful of checking Instagram or FB just out of habit.

Ok, so there you have it. How I got over my business hangover. Again that strategies are:

1. Take time to relax and re-energize;

2. Refocus your time and energy;

3. And take a break from technology.


denise alison